You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. And the SAME is TRUE for humans, for us, for YOU. Which basically means that until you are ready for the shifts you desire, the shifts will feel difficult and like an uphill struggle. In this episode I discuss how to bring love and compassion to yourself as you take YOUR unique soul and divine timed journey.
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Hi, and welcome to today's episode of the radiant soul podcast. And I don't know if this is going to be a Soul Shots! Or a longer episode. I'm going to speak and see how long it lasts. Um, But I want to talk today about. How we all have our own divine timing and we all have our own readiness when we are ready.
And everyone always says, you know, begin before you're ready. And even I've said that, you know, and I totally believe in that, but there were times when we are On a journey, a soul journey of evolution. When we truly aren't ready until we're ready.
I have observed this from when I was a homeopath basically, years ago. I started qualifying to be a homeopath. I spent eight years studying homeopathic medicine. I was working with patients, before I moved to Canada. That's what I did. And one of the things that I noticed was you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. You can literally give people the tools for healing and give people the support, what they need. Everything that they could possibly have the guidance, the light, you know, this is the way, but until a person is ready to heal until a person is ready to make that journey you are never, ever gonna have an effect on their lives. You are never going to cause them to heal and you will never cause them to heal anyway. Like it's entirely up to the person, individual person to decide when they are ready to heal. But this is true of ourselves we are only ever ready when we are ready. And.
For me. In the last few months, a few really key things have clicked into place in how I show up in the world. What I'm doing. How I am, in what's happening in my life. And those have been because I was ready. And I was trying to figure out this morning, like what, what was the difference?
I've been wanting some of these things for so long and trying really hard for them and, and it, and I couldn't just, I just couldn't get it. Like there was some certain little key pieces in my sort of knowledge and vibrational frequency and in allowance and how I was showing up in a world that just weren't clicking into place. No matter how hard I tried.
And today I was just sat with that feeling looking back on it and the reflection and asking, well, why, what, what was the difference? What was the difference between then and now, how can I get it now, but not then. And.
Well, I came to the conclusion was that I just wasn't ready, like as a soul, as a person. As a, as a vessel to hold the energies. I wasn't ready. And until I was. No amount of help from outside would ever help me. It would always guide me. It would show me the way it would. It would give me inspiration.
But until I was fully ready to take on that leadership role until I was fully ready to be that Vessel for that then no amount of anything else could help. And that's true with everyone. Even with my, you know, someone I know closely at the moment. They have been struggling and I recommended this thing that could help them. But they're very resistant and there's no, there's no sort of forcing someone to take that journey. And it's why as a homeopath, I would never accept other people's referrals. Like if other people came to me and said, I really want my partner to come and see you. I really want my husband to have treatment with you or my wife to have treatment, the answer was always no, not until that person comes themselves, because until that person comes to the water themselves, until that person comes to the solution, they're not ready. And so nothing you do would ever make that, like have an effect on their life.
And I just want you all to be aware that that's the same and true for you. And so when you're trying to achieve something or you're trying to like have a result in your life and it's not happening, please don't beat up on yourself. Don't think that you failed. Don't think that this isn't the way or this isn't the answer. It's just Maybe in divine timing. You're just not ready yet. It's just not the right time yet. And I never give up. Right. Some of the things I'm manifesting now have been nine year visions, like nine years holding that vibrational frequency and desire.
Of wanting something. Of knowing I can have it, but you know, obviously in those nine years I've had many ups and downs of like, I don't think I can. I don't think I can ahhh, you know, and, and there's still, you know, there's still questions hanging over some of those things, but it wasn't until I was ready to really be where I am now that those things could come into my life and the delay is it's just part of life. Like it is part of who I am now. It's part of what I've become. It's not always been easy or the times when I wish I could change things, of course, of course, like we are human beings and sometimes things that difficult, but I want you to realize that you are on your own path and you are on your own timing and this rings true as well.
I was just listening to someone talk about trauma and how, like, you know, some of some people that talk about law of attraction or manifestation and stuff can cause a lot of damage to people who had trauma. Like traumatized. I can have post-traumatic stress syndrome.
PTSD. Um, uh, you know what I mean? this is something I've had, right? This is something, the journey, one of the journeys I've had to deal with and it wasn't until I was ready, it wasn't until I felt able to face those traumas to face those things in life that had really hurt And then heal from them, I wasn't ready. So it wasn't until I was, that I was able to move through those.
And I think sometimes if you're being triggered by something or you're finding something harmful or hurting, you know, someone's actions or what people are saying can cause harm. Then you've got to be really honest with yourself. Like where are you at and what, why is this causing harm? Like what, what is there that needs healing?
And only you can take that journey only you can do that and unravel it. And so sometimes I might say things that really, you know, trigger you or upset you, or, you know, Leave you thinking that there's a fault to play here, but there isn't, the only thing is, is like when you are ready and when you are ready, you face these things. When you are ready you do take on that level of honesty and responsibility. And I'm not saying responsibilities in like, it's your fault these things happened. Absolutely not. People get traumatized for horrific horrible reasons. And you cannot ever underestimate that.
But when it's time for that person to face that. Then there is a level of responsibility. There's a level of responsibility that you take on for yourself of like, Do I love myself enough now to really get the help I need to really get the support I need to really get the healing I need around this.
And if you're still being very harmed or triggered There's still huge amounts of healing that you need to do. Right. And the the invitation isn't that you're at fault, or you need to go do that. The invitation is to bring yourself utter love and compassion, right? Because we are all human beings still. I will always say this. You are. I will always say you are infinite possibilities in spirit and everything. But you're also human, you know, the infinite cosmic power in an itty bitty tiny space. Well that little bitty, tiny space is your human self and your human self suffers. Your human self feels pain.
And if you're not willing to feel the pain because sometimes it's too painful. It can be a really difficult process of healing. It could be a really painful process of healing and, you're ready when you are ready. And it's not a moment before and not a moment after. And I think that there's so much pressure on you to be different, to be changed, to be healed, to be whole, to be whatever. A) you are whole already, as you are and perfect
and B) just ease up on yourself. Like you will be ready when you are ready. You will be able to do this when you are ready. You will be able to take the steps forward when you are ready and the more loving and compassionate you can be with yourself. And the more honest you can be with yourself and honesty, you know, the truth hurts sometimes. And the truth that we deny ourselves.
Like, you know, what do you know that you really pretend, you don't know, but you do know like those things, those truths can really cut deep. When we realize that we've been denying. Something for ourselves or you know, perpetuating the pain on ourselves. It can be painful, right? It can be a really hard pill to swallow.
And yet when you're ready to take You know, when you're ready to face it and swallow that pill. And when you're ready to have that medicine, you will do it. You will just do it because it's time. And so there's no shame in not being ready. There's no shame in being on your own timeline. There's no shame in being triggered by stuff. There's no shame in having PTSD. There's no shame in finding things painful or, not being able to get it, you know, not being able to suddenly get this vibrational frequency thing, whatever it is I'm talking about, the other people that talk about it. There's no shame in that. Like you were ready when you are ready for that. And the fact that you're even listening to this, the fact that things like these are coming into your consciousness, coming into your awareness is signs from your soul saying, get ready. Cause you're getting close to being ready. Right? This is, this is us saying to you that you know, you are able to face a little bit of this now and you know, you can take your time.
I have always laughed and joked that I am like, dip my little toes in first and then retreat and dip them in again and retreat. And then gradually I'll get, you know, Up to my knee, deep in water. And I.
I literally do this in real life. Like you take me to a lake in Canada in the middle of summer. And it will take me like half an hour to get knee deep in the water and even longer to get any higher, because it's just so cold. And. I'm like that in life, right? I don't throw myself into things. I don't dive in the deep end, because for me that would be very detrimental to my nervous system. And learning that that's exactly who I am and how I operate and accommodating that and allowing myself the time, even with this new pivot in my business and bringing forth the podcast and being much more vocal about the spiritual side of the things that I do.
Like. It took me six months prep before I even started, of just a visioning it, of feeling into it, of deciding if I really wanted to do it. And then it's been a real gradual process and I've allowed myself as much time as it needs to build. Right. I'm in no rush. Like, I'm not going anywhere.
And I'm in. No, I'm in no rush, I'm on my timeline. And if, and I know like my, my alignment is so strong, I know my end goal is already achieved. Like I really know. Exactly. And I, I sometimes pretend I don't, I sometimes be like, I don't know what I want and I know exactly what I want.
How often do you do that? And I know exactly what I want and I've already seen it and I've already felt into it so often. That I know it's inevitable. And now I'm like, just like backtracking and taking the steps. And everything I do is just like, but of course it's going to work out because there's no way it can't, it's inevitable, but it's taken me a long, long, long, long time to get to that level. Right. It's taken me years of practicing. Fine tuning my brain and it's a process and it's a practice. It's not a one stop one, one, and done thing. It's a process. And. When you're ready for it. It will start happening and you'll start knowing, and you'll start just like having a much deeper level of trust in yourself, a much deeper level of trust in your abilities and in the actions that you take because you, you just know, but it's not an overnight thing. And can you force this? Yeah, but in, in my experience, when people really force manifestations, There's still a sense of deep, deep, deep down under like, underneath of not being fully in alignment or not being allowed or like, not feeling like it's true. And, and often those things get taken away again. And so, you know, you'll hear people manifesting this wonderful love of their life. And then, you know, two months down the line that relationships ended and they're completely gutted. And they think that they failed at manifestation or they failed at the law of attraction. And it's not that at all. It's. It's about being ready and how open you are.
And often the biggest heartbreaks can come before the biggest breakthroughs, like, because your heart literally, like the casing, I've always said a heartbreak is, is the casing around your heart. That's like the wall, the barriers that stops your love getting out. Right? And it's that, that breaks. It's like this egoic sort of like barrier of protection that breaks. It's not actually your heart, your heart is just this ever loving presence for you, for everyone, for everything.
And so. You know, Where am I going with this? I feel I drifted off into another land...welcome.... If you can hear my boyfriend's laughing really loudly in the other room. Hopefully this mic doesn't pick it up. Um,
but yeah. When are you? You know, when you're ready, things will click into place. Things will really find their alignment with you and you'll find your alignment with them and you can practice this every day. You have to practice bringing yourself back into alignment. It's not like once you've got it, you've got it. Like, things will always like knock you and this is why we're here.
This is the journey. This is what I soul wants! Our soul wants to become masters of this stuff. Our soul wants to learn how to really gain mastery. You know, and become the creator. Become God. In physical form. And, and that's, that's a beautiful gift you can give yourself and, and. And you can start the process and just like, I can stand here and shine the light and, and point the way and say, you know, try this. This is the way. And there's nothing here I'm saying thats anything new to what every guru ever has ever said, and every, you know, spiritual text or book has said and anyone else, spurting spiritual stuff. Like we're all saying the same stuff. If you actually really listen. And you'll, you'll hear it as many times as you need to. And then when you're ready, it will click.
It's almost that you don't, you don't need to try and get this. It's not something you've got to do as work. But your work is to just be like, well, how do I feel in this moment? Do I feel really crappy and miserable? Because if I am, then I'm thinking something that's not true. Can I come back? Can I find a moment where I just come back to center, you know, I did a podcast the other day about it just how to come back to center. Can I just find that peace within? Can I open up to the majesty, the wellbeing, the beauty there's already here, that's already present? And all of the tools I give you are little tools, practices, games that you can play to keep doing that, to keep doing that. And then, and then bit by bit gradually by, you know, Step-by-step these things click into place. And then when you're ready, things open and, you know, and that's when you suddenly just have this, this inner trust, and you can build that trust, right? You can start to layer on And build on it and, and grow from it.
And this is my wish for you all, right. And to be gentle and loving with yourself. To be tender with the time it takes you. To be on your journey and no one else's. And that means like literally put the blinkers on.
Because you see people that come in, they're like, I make this much money I'm doing so good, blah, blah, blah, blah. But like, They're them, and they've on their journey and you don't know what it took to get there. And all you can do is be where you are now. with love and compassion and presence. and non-judgment of yourself.
And see 'what's coming into my consciousness?' 'what does my soul want to know right now?' 'What does my soul want me, my human self to realize and know?'. And you will gradually take those steps. You will gradually be ready when you are ready and eventually you will find that water and you will drink it. And you know, you will, you will drink from the well of life when you are ready for it.
And there's no shame if you aren't. And I want you to really get that, you know, I want you to really understand that we all have our own journeys and some of those are healing journeys and some of those healing journeys can be painful, can be long, can be hard can be, can be tough, right? And you have to bring love and compassion to yourself.
Because you are so, so, so, so loved, but you have to love yourself too. You have to. And that's not just like, oh, I love. You know, I love how I look, I love this. You have to like really love every part of yourself and that takes courage. And that takes going against what you've been programmed to do.
And that's, that's the work right?
So I wish you a well-timed beautiful day. And when I say well-timed, I mean, completely divinely timed.
We're all on our own time journey and our own timeline and to trust the timing of that. Sending you so much love. Thank you for listening. I know this is a bit waffley, but I feel that there's been a thread that goes all the way through it.
Somewhere! I love you. Have a great week. Bye.